Significance of Sumangali Pooja
There are no Vedic rituals or mantras in this form of pooja as it is just done to invoke the blessings of ancestral women who have lived long and enjoyed a prosperous family life with their husband. This pooja differs according to the customs and tradition of each family. The intention and purpose is the same but the method of worship is different.
Purpose of this pooja
Before a girl gets married the family members conduct a small ceremony in order to get the blessings of ancestral married women (grandmothers) and the blessings from the girl's mother who is considered to be the guardian of her Mangalsutra or Thirumangalyam. This pooja is a sort of thanks giving function to mothers both alive and departed.
This pooja is performed to get the blessings of the married ladies ( who have their husband alive) or deceased young unmarried girls or women who died young without enjoying life.
The pooja is done before the girl gets married or during the time of Upanayanam or sacred thread ceremony, or those married ladies who wish to have a good marital life or after the arrival of daughter-in-law.
Some methods to be followed
The women who par takes in this function has to take oil bath and wear 9 yard sari. They have to be well dressed with ornaments, flowers on their head etc.
On an auspicious day and time the bride or the married women in the family gather to receive the invited ladies (it is to be noted that their husband are alive or women living with their husband). The invited ladies should be in odd numbers that is 3, 5, 7, 9 etc., and two young girls below 10 years are also invited because they represent the deceased young unmarried girls or those women who died young without enjoying life. if the family married women are in even numbers then distant relatives or neighboring married women can be invited.
At the start the house is kept neat. The prayer room and deities are well decorated. Flowers, fruits, betel leaves and nuts, neem leaves, lamps are lighted, saree, blouse pieces, two full skirts for the girls, bangles, kumkum and termeric packets, water and other gifts are placed on a tray and sumptuous vegetarian food are placed on a big banana leaf.
Procedure to invite and revere ladies
The invited ladies are rubbed turmeric paste, sandalwood paste on their cheeks.
Then they are seated on a marked place where they are said to represent the deseased ladies.
Here the total number of ladies seated as main participant with the two young girls must be in odd numbers.
After the departed elders are revered and invoked, the ladies and girls who had represented the deceased are given a good feast. Then the rest married ladies too participate in the feast.
After the feast all married women are given betel leaves, nuts, kumkum, turmeric, flowers, fruits, gifts, bangles etc., is to please them and to earn their good wishes in order to have a long happy married life.
The main participant is given saris and blouse piece and the girls are give full skirts (sari and other auspicious items is given according to one's facility).
Who conducts this Pooja?
Generally the women of the house conduct it as it comes in practice. To perform it in a proper and in a traditional manner, a priest is best suited. It can be done either at home or in a temple but the purpose is to lead a blissful married long life with one's spouse.
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